What’s included in addressing?
Guest Addressing
Your guest names and addresses will be printed in black ink on the front of the envelopes, using fonts that match your chosen design.
Return Addressing
Your name ( Usually The Future Mr. and Mrs. …) and return address will be printed in black ink on the back flap of the envelopes, using fonts that match your chosen design.
Response Card Return Addressing
Your name ( Usually The Future Mr. and Mrs. …) and address will be printed on the front of the envelope. Printing is done in black ink using fonts that match your chosen design.
Addressing Etiquette
A Married Couple
Mr. and Mrs. John Holt
A Married Couple With Different Last Names
List the person you're closest with first on the envelope. If you're similarly acquainted with both, list them in alphabetical order.
Mr. John Holt and Mrs. Samantha Thuente
An Unmarried Couple Living Together
As with a married couple, both names should be included on the envelopes
Mr. Joseph Hirsch and Ms. Rebecca Strecker
A Same-Sex Couple
Use the same rules you would for any other unmarried or married couple.
Ms. Celine Elgin and Ms. Jacqueline Purcell
A Married Woman Doctor or Two Married Doctors
If a woman uses her maiden name professionally and socially, the envelopes should read:
Dr. Anne Barker and Mr. Peter Underwood
If she uses her husband's name socially:
Dr. Anne and Mr. Peter Underwood
If both parties are doctors, you can address the envelope:
Doctors Anne and Peter Underwood
Or
The Doctors Underwood
Those With Other Distinguished Titles
Apply the same rules you use for doctors for military personnel, judges, reverends and so on
The Honorable Jane Kelly and Lieutenant Jonathan Kelly, US Navy
Or if they're both captains in the military:
Captains Jane and Jonathan Kelly, US Navy
Children and Families
For girls under 18, use “Miss." Boys don't need a title until they're 18—then they're addressed as "Mr."
Mr. and Mrs. Michael Abraham
Daniel, Jeffrey, Miss Brittany and Miss Kelly
Children 18 and Older
They should receive their own invitations (unless they're living at home with their parents).
Children 18 and Older
Ms. Audrey Abraham
or
Mr. Jack Abraham
We feel it is always safer to list all invited guests on the invitation rather than simply adding “and family”. This ensures there is no grey area as to who is invited and if they are invited with guests or not. If you don't include each child's name, you're implying that children are not invited. That said, don't be surprised if some guests still mistakenly assume their children are welcome. Some couples do add “adult affair” on their wedding invitation or reception card to clarify that children are not permitted.